Lancaster County PA Realty Check: Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive Dissonance

Who do you see when you look in the mirror in the morning?  Do you like the person looking back at you?

You're experiencing "cognitive dissonance" if the person looking back at you isn't the person inside you, who you know you could and should be.

I'm not talking about discovering gray hairs or new wrinkles (although that can be cognitive dissonance, too!)

Have you been a good friend to your friends?  Have you been a loving spouse to your spouse?

Have you done everything you could for your clients?  Have you exhibited random acts of kindness?

Have you worked your marketing systems consistently whether or not you had a lot of business?

Have you followed your business plan?  Is your business where you planned it would be?  Do you even have a business plan?

There's only one way to end cognitive dissonance!  We need to try to be the best us that we can be.  Trying our best and not reaching our goals is not failure.  Failing to try our best is indeed a failure. 

"Woulda, shoulda, coulda" only causes us to compare what we know we're capable of with what we've actually achieved. 

Every day brings a brand new start for the rest of our lives.  It's not over as long as we keep aiming high.  It's not over 'til it's over.

©2008BrianSchulman

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Comment balloon 8 commentsBrian Schulman • May 24 2008 02:02PM

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Hi Brian,

You created an excellent post!

If we don't give our very best we always have regrets!

I aim high.  I would rather shoot for the moon and make it half way there than try something easy that won't challenge me!

My dreams are way beyond what I can do on my own.  I am preparing to create a leadership team of creative, risk-taking team players who will help me do far more than I can even imagine!

Posted by Dan Woodworth, Encouraging Communicator (The Connection) over 10 years ago

Dan, as the poet John Donne said, "No man is an island."  We all need positive support systems.  To be the best we can be, we need to help and be helped by others. 

It looks like you've overcome some difficulties in your life.  I wish you the best of luck in assembling your creative team.

Posted by Brian Schulman, Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA) over 10 years ago

OK Brian ...fess up..you were a motivational speaker in your past life right?

Posted by Joan Mirantz, Realtor, GRI, CBR, SRES - Concord New Hampshire (Homequest Real Estate) over 10 years ago

Joan, I wrote this post to motivate myself as much as anyone else!  (I actually did take an assignment as a public speaker once, but it was on national energy policy.)

Posted by Brian Schulman, Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA) over 10 years ago

Hi Brian,

Thanks for the reminder to be all that we can be and the best that we can be. This post brought to mind a poem that my Dad gave to my brothers and I many years ago~ The Man in the Glass.

I think sometimes I'm too hard on myself and experience more cognitive dissonance from my own judgement of myself than I really deserve.  Do you think many people are like that?

Jo

Posted by Jo-Anne Smith over 10 years ago

Hi Jo,

Some of us are more likely to second guess ourselves than others.  I'm like that, too.  You and I are both introspective.  I'm my own worst critic.

I do remember reading "The Man in the Glass" years ago.  It kind of reminds me of "If" - by Rudyard Kipling (If you can keep your head when all about you, are losing theirs and blaming it on you...)

Have a happy Memorial Day,

Brian   :o)

Posted by Brian Schulman, Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA) over 10 years ago

Brian - this is a wonderful reminder. Your last line reminds me of something I heard many years ago (in of all things - a safe driving commercial) "Where there's life, there's hope." We can't do much about the past, but each day we live is another opportunity to do better.

Posted by Jackie - computer-training-atlanta.com, Learn to leverage technology to get more done. (770.498.7333) over 10 years ago

Exactly, Jackie.   Actor/comedian George Burns used to say that every morning he would read the obituaries in the newspaper.  If he wasn't in them, he knew it was going to ba a good day!

Posted by Brian Schulman, Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552 (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA) over 10 years ago

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